With over a decade of research behind us, Casque Noemi became one of the most recognized names in sexuality. Of Catalan origin and 32 years old, the journalist and publicist is already considered an expert on the subject, on which she gives courses, lectures and on which she has written several books such as the trilogy composed by Bitches, bad and freewhich was adapted to audiovisual format by Atresplayer. After this success, he also launched biology composed of Bodies and souls.
On social media he has millions of followers, both on TikTok and on X or Instagram. And it is precisely through these platforms that he disseminates specialized content and speaks, in a very natural way, about sexThis topic is so taboo for many.
One of the communicator and sexual activist’s most recent projects is Tell it like you arefrom Control España, the series of video podcasts by presenter Uri Sabat, in which he manages to bring to light the most intimate and personal side of some of the most recognized faces on social media, speaking openly about how they experience love, sex and sexuality. And, precisely in this production is where Noemí has spoken about different topics such as the relationship between mental health and sex, or menopause, but also other everyday topics such as what we women don’t like in bed. But what exactly is it?
1. Lack of communication
Something that women certainly don’t like is taking things for granted when we talk about sex. By this we mean incorporating new practices without telling your partner, assuming they will like them. You have to ask, know and find out if you are willing or interested in trying depending on which practices. Communication is the source of pleasure. And, on the contrary, the lack of communication can affect the time to reach orgasm. In fact, 35% of women have occasionally faked an orgasm, according to data collected in the XII Control Barometer: Spaniards and sex.
2. Coitocentric sexual relations
“They put it in our heads that sex is almost a manual, how it starts: kissing, a little masturbation or caressing, oral sex (if any) and repeated penetration. can make many people feel lazy when it comes to sexbecause following this line is something that can be exhausting”, says Noemí Casquet. Most people think that penetration is the main or only act of sexual relations, however, this leads us to leave aside something more powerful than the entirety of our body.
3. Ignore that the female G-spot is on the clitoris
This point is closely related to the previous one, most of the time the clitoris (or other erogenous zones that can give a lot of pleasure) is forgotten. Many women need external stimulation to reach orgasm. “If we disconnect from our body and focus on pleasure while thinking we want to feel it from our toes to our head, we can feel orgasms throughout our entire body, what we call an expanded orgasm,” says Casquet.
4. Adapt sex to what we see
“Audiovisual content They got it into our heads that passion equals speed“, that is, we tear off our clothes, we hug each other… with a speed and intensity that often leads to a truly exhausting rhythm”, highlights the communicator.
This leads us to think that passion is often equal to abruptness, speed and intensity, however, Passion is also caressing, looking into the eyes and hugging.. This conception is often related to the attempt to replicate what is seen in pornography. According to the Control Spain barometer, “almost half of the population surveyed consumed pornography between the ages of 14 and 16, key ages for sexual development that can be negatively affected by the porn industry.”
They got it into our heads that passion equals speed
5. Having to fulfill all fantasies
As individuals, everyone has their own fantasies and it’s okay to propose them to your partner if he agrees to fulfill them, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. “You have to try everything in this life, but more and more I keep in mind that There are many fantasies that can simply stick in your head.because perhaps they are simply that, a fantasy and there is no need to bring them to reality”, highlights Casquet.
At this point, the journalist specializing in sex recommends a game to play as a couple that consists of staying at home, watching a good movie and ordering some pizzas and getting some pieces of paper on which, without the partner seeing, each one writes the your. fantasies. These are placed in a jar and one by one they are opened without knowing whose fantasy it is and discussed. This way, for the future, you can already have an idea of what can be put into practice and what you both like, and which fantasies are best to keep in mind. Additionally, sexual fantasies can also include toys.
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